Finding the elusive G-spot

The clitoris, the clitoris, the clitoris. People go on about this admittedly nifty bit of anatomy like it’s the only female organ with any nerve endings. This gives rise to the clitoris sometimes being stimulated so much it simply retreats beneath its hood.

Let’s not forget the marvellous, magnificent vagina, which is not only super-sensitive but quite muscular, making it really useful for giving and receiving pleasant stimulus. You may have noticed this yourself.

The vagina generally reacts favourably to being licked, sucked, blown on and touched. It also likes having two fingers put inside it, once it’s nicely lubricated and engorged with blood, then beckoned in a gentle, come-hither way.

Reaching the G-spot
Which brings us to the so-called G-spot and how to reach it. What many men don’t realise is that just as women are found in a pleasing variety of shapes and sizes on the outside (Witness the difference between say, Sophie Dahl and Winona Ryder), they’re also not all configured the same way inside.

The angle at which women’s vaginas slope into their bodies can vary markedly, although to our knowledge nobody’s measured the exact variance with a protractor. It also means that distance between the opening of the vagina and the G-spot might differ markedly.

This is why you might find position that worked well for hitting your previous partner’s G-spot isn’t effective with your new partner. If you discuss this, don’t phrase it that way if you value your teeth or the relationship. Instead, devote some effort to working out the angle and the position that will put the head of your penis in contact with her G-spot.

The woman-on-top positions can work well for this, but if you both like the missionary position, try putting a small pillow under your partner’s back or lifting her legs.

You can also try kneeling between her legs and putting your hands under her bottom, sliding it over your upper legs.

These moves all achieve one thing, which is to push the upper wall of the vagina against the head of the penis, allowing you both maximum pleasure.

You’ll know when you find it because your partner will draw your attention, possibly by shouting you name repeatedly. The G-spot is a nodule of nerve-rich tissue that feels a bit like a soft walnut.

A full-blown, five-alarm vaginal orgasm results in strong waves of muscular contractions that might push lesser men than you clean out of your partner. Push back. She’ll like it.

Size difference?
The difference in the size of the inside of women helps lay to rest the whole debate about penis size too.

Most men measure about 13 centimetres in length when erect. For most women, the average is a comfortable length. Women surveyed have professed to pain and discomfort from larger penises, although a small percentage found them exciting.

A good test is if the head of your penis bumps into something when you thrust. It’s her cervix and it can hurt her. Either she’s a little short or you’re a little long. Don’t gloat, just change your position. Again, woman-on-top is good for this, as it maximises penile contact but you’re not in as deep.

If you don’t feel a cervix at full penetration, that might not matter. But you could be a little short or she might be a bit long. If she wants you to go deeper, try the missionary position and lift her legs. If she’s comfortable with it, you can lift her legs up to her chest. Emotionally it’s a vulnerable position for the woman, which might result in feelings that are either deeply erotic or insecure.

Either way, the human body is versatile enough to allow a meeting not only of minds, but of all the sensitive squishy bits that count.